We all have times when we wonder, “What does that person think of me? We all have times when we wonder what others think of us.
However, it can be difficult to worry about what others think of you.
You have to be timid and scared all the time.
When you are so worried about what others think of you, you become nervous and pressured, and you fail in important areas.
We are hurt by the casual words of others, and even if we look at someone, we may wonder if they are laughing at us. We can become suspicious of others.
I want to be able to act as I am, without worrying about what others think.
The true nature of “worrying about what others think
Why do we worry about what others think of us?
If you imagine a situation where you feel “safe” in front of others, you will understand.
For example, if you can believe that this person likes you or thinks highly of you, you will feel safe.
In other words, the psychological reason why we are concerned about the eyes of others is the desire for approval.
It is natural to have a desire for approval. The question is why we are concerned about the eyes of others, in other words, the process.
(1) You have a desire to be recognized (to be obsessed with your own value).
2) You react to that desire and fantasize about how you are seen.
If you think about it this way, you can see why.
In other words, the delusion created by the desire for approval. That is the true nature of the “curious mind.
How am I being evaluated at work?” “Am I being disliked?” “Have I lost my credibility because of this?” All of these concerns are delusions created by the obsession with one’s own value.
All of these fears are delusions created by the obsession with one’s own value. When delusions become excessive, they become “assumptions.
I am hated, laughed at behind my back, and spoken ill of.
There are people who say, “I don’t know why, but I’m afraid of what other people think of me,” or “I see everyone around me as an enemy.
It’s a painful situation.
I don’t know why, but I can’t stop being afraid of what others think of me.
The key to getting out of this kind of trouble is to clearly realize that any thoughts you have are just delusions.
Don’t take delusions, the “bullshit of the brain,” seriously.
There are a few things you need to know about how to deal with delusions.
The first is that there is no limit to delusions. Delusions, even the worst ones, are easy to conjure up.
The brain can easily create fantasies that are shameful, cruel, or just plain wrong that you would never tell anyone about.
This is also true in the “dream world.
In the first place, the brain takes in all the information it sees and hears as a memory of reaction.
What you see, what you hear, and even what you are not aware of, your brain actually reacts to and stores as memories!
In addition, each memory can combine to create an “unseen delusion.
The mental state of anger, melancholy, and suspicion at the time may also play a role, causing us to interpret and believe something that is not really there.
Dreams and delusions often do this kind of bullshit.
In this day and age, through the Internet and mass media, we are bombarded with all kinds of images and information that stimulate our afflictions.
The “memories of reactions” that are inputted into our minds come back to our minds in unexpected ways.
However, they are all delusions. The first thing you need to know is that they are not worthy of being taken seriously. No matter what comes to mind, it is important to be prepared to not react to it.
Let go of things that cannot be confirmed.
Another thing you need to understand is that there is no way to be sure about delusions.
When we have delusions or dreams, we like to think that they have a significant meaning or that there is a reason for what we see.
It is true that there is a possibility of meaning.
However, the important thing to remember is that there is no way to confirm this delusion.
If you try to force yourself to confirm or believe it, you will have no choice but to step into the realm of delusion.
However, the more you do so, the further away from the “correct understanding” you will be.
Chasing delusion or staying in correct understanding?
The question is which way to think.
In order to avoid being trapped, I would take the latter.
No matter what kind of suffering you are experiencing, it is better not to chase after “things that cannot be confirmed” such as “past lives” or “the afterlife.
However, it is up to you to decide how far you want to chase after things that cannot be confirmed.
What is important is to clarify the “purpose” of your own life.
Understanding the “true nature” of the real suffering that we all have, and becoming free from that suffering, will stop your delusion.
One way to do this is to use Zen, meditation, and other “methods for understanding and purifying the mind.
What more purpose is there than to practice these methods and solve the suffering of reality?
There is no need to “chase delusion. Rather, try to understand your own mind better, and learn how to think rationally – how to understand.
As long as your suffering arose in “this life,” it will surely be resolved in this life. Let’s trust that.
For those who are concerned about what others think of them, the first priority is to stop being delusional.
This is because the habit of delusion is the main cause of the problem of “worrying about what others think.
Why don’t you establish a way to deal with your delusions?
You can take the position that delusions are just delusions, that they have no limits and no basis, and that I will not pursue them any further.
Don’t worry. There will come a time when your mind will be free.
